By Isis Nezbeth
Isis is a first-time mother, author, and free-spirited freelancer.
You can’t just shoot your shot. You’ve got to do it with precision.
Now that we’ve tackled Why Women Should Feel More Empowered To ‘Shoot Your Shot’, let’s talk about how anyone can do that. First thing’s first. You have to understand that you miss 100% of the shots you don’t take–and there’s nobody to blame for that, but yourself. What’s the worse that could happen, right? Sure, they’ll say or show that they’re not interested. Depending on the type of person you are, you may be embarrassed for a short minute. Nevertheless, you’ll eventually move on with your life. It’s no big deal, seriously. Try not to focus on the rejection aspect of shooting your shot. Focus on the fact that if you do shoot your shot, there’s a 50% chance that it’s nothing but net. Don’t let fear hold you back! Now that you’re all pumped up and ready to shoot your shot, let’s make sure you’re prepared. If you’re interested in scoring the first date, this is how you shoot your shot with accuracy! Let’s get into it!
To shoot your shot with accuracy, have ball control.
No matter how ready you are to “take it to the hole” (no pun intended), you won’t make it to the goal if you don’t have ball control. When you lack ball control you give the opposing team the opportunity to steal the ball from you. This is no different from having good game. If you’re game isn’t right, you allow another person to walk in and sweep your love interest off their feet before you do. Never underestimate the art of game. It’s different for everyone, which is the good thing, but you’ve got to have at least a little bit. If you’re wondering how good your game is, ask a close (honest) friend. They will tell you the truth about it. If you find that you’re lacking in that area, there are websites just like The Goddess Column offering free game for just about every situation. You can just Google it, seriously.
To shoot your shot with accuracy, position yourself.
In order to shoot your shot with accuracy you’ve got to know where it is you’re trying to score from. You need to know the angle, position, the distance… if you don’t, how can you aim accurately? Do some light research on your person of interest so that you know where to shoot from. You want to know what types of things they might be interested in. You want to know how to slide into the DMs. Should you compliment her? Should you say something insightful? When you don’t take the time to learn a little about the person you’re pursuing you can end up shooting from left field and miss completely. I mean, like not even anywhere remotely close to the goal. Nobody wants to be this person.
To shoot your shot with accuracy, know what play your running.
In other words, have a plan. As important as it is to position yourself accordingly when you shoot your shot, you have to know what to do once the ball is out of your hands. When you shoot your shot, that’s only the beginning. If you don’t make it the first time, do you get the rebound? If you do make it, what’s the next play? All of these things are important to consider when pursuing a love interest. Should you make the shot the first time around, you need to plan out your next moves so that you don’t end up with nothing to show in the end, but the one shot you made. At the same rate, just because they reject you the first time doesn’t necessarily mean that you should give up on trying to make the shot a second time. Who knows? A different angle might land you where you’re trying to be. This decision rests on how bad you want the win.
To shoot your shot with accuracy, focus your shot.
You know what I mean. If you’re going to shoot your shot with accuracy you’ve got to focus on the ball in your hand and the basket that it’s supposed to go in. Focus on one potential at a time. Don’t go shooting your ball into any old basket because you can only score on the right one. Simple as that.
To shoot your shot with accuracy, shoot your best shot–period.
At the end of the day, you’ve got to shoot the best shot that you can. When you put all the previously mentioned together, it should set you up for the best shot you can take. Take it. Don’t hesitate. Don’t overthink it. Put a little faith behind it and give it all you’ve got. You can’t predict the future so why try to? Just trust and put your best foot forward. In my experience, there isn’t too much negativity that can follow behind that. If things don’t turn out the way you want them to meet me back here and we’ll discuss what to do next!