By Mayshad Mag
Mayshad Magazine is an advocacy platform for empowerment which mainly focuses on empowering women, raising awareness and exploring a contemporary lifestyle.
Could you please describe yourself in a few words and maybe tell us a bit more about your roots of coaching? To be more specific, how do you organize, plan, and prioritize your work?
I am an introverted, passionate, mom, wife, and self-care fanatic who has a fiery passion for inspiring, motivating and teaching others how to stand in their personal power, own their greatness and create the life they desire, deserve, and crave. It was this passion for serving others that led me to leave my six-figure job in the financial software and technology industry to pursue my big bodacious dreams of becoming a life coach, empowerment speaker, author, and influencer. I am the founder of A Life Ignited, a personal and professional development company that helps goal-driven men, women, and students obtain the soft skills, life and success coaching required to take their lives and careers to “next level extraordinary.”
My coaching career started over 22 years ago when, as a favor, I helped a friend prepare for an upcoming interview. Prior to our session together, my friend had gone on over ten interviews that all resulted in no job offers. I coached him not only to go through the interview process successfully but also how to be confident and trust himself and his ability to be successful during his next interview. Two days after our session, he went on an interview that ended with a job offer right there on the spot. That was the beginning of my coaching career. I fell in love with helping people win and get what they want out of life. While working full time and raising small kids, I carved out time to take coaching classes and became a certified life coach, trainer, and speaker: And ultimately, A Life Ignited was born!
I am very active and present in the lives of both my children and my husband. So, scheduling, planning, and prioritizing is definitely an art that I have become very skilled at. I build my calendar around the needs of my family first. Once all our family obligations, date nights, and family movie nights are on the calendar, I began to plan for, schedule, and block out time for business activities, community service, and self-care activities such as going to the gym. From a day-to-day perspective, I tackle tasks that I can complete in 10 minutes or less first and then I chop up bigger projects into bite-size pieces that I can complete throughout the day or week. All those pieces come together to shape the project or goal that I’ve set for myself for that particular month.
I think the key to loving what you do and not feeling burnt out from the work it takes to be successful, in all areas of your life, is to make sure your schedule includes time for you to recharge and recalibrate. And always make self-care and down-time nonnegotiable priorities.
Could you give us an example of a situation where you had to think outside of the box? Maybe you could share a past experience where you had to deal with a difficult person and how you handled the situation.
I was elected to the Executive Committee of the Temple University Women’s Network as the Director of Social Media and Communications. One of my tasks was to form a committee of active and committed alumna. I knew it was going to be a challenge trying to find alumna who would be able to serve on my committee, so I had to think out the box and create a recruiting process that would attract talented volunteers to my committee. I decided to approach my task differently; in a way that had never been done before by any of the alumni groups. I created a unique recruitment process that included a bubbly and energetic recruitment video, a Google sign up form, and a meet-and-greet via video-conference. The process was hugely successful and resulted in a fully staffed, full-time committee that is praised by the university, the board, and our social media followers for their engagement, consistency, and commitment.
What makes me most happy about this successful recruitment process is that out of it, friendships, mentor relationships, and even business relationships have been molded. We are a tight group of women who empower, celebrate, support, and encourage one another. I personally have new friends and colleagues, and I’m grateful for each one of them.
Working in corporate America for over 21 years, being a leader, collaborating on boards, supervising people, being an investor and landlord, and even being a mom has led me down many different paths where I was met along the way by a difficult person, who I define as someone unwilling to be reasonable or collaborative. What I’ve learned throughout the years is that the best way to handle a difficult person is to focus on the common goal and not the individual. Difficult people are generally coming to the table with past hurt, fears, and frustrations, also known as baggage. As an empowered woman, it is important not to lose yourself in their baggage but to move beyond their emotions and push forward to achieve success and accomplish the task at hand. Remind the difficult person that you honor their opinions and that you are looking forward to working together in a fulfilling and mutually respectful manner. From CEO’s, to co-workers, to other moms and parents, I find that when you acknowledge your good intentions with difficult people and you rise above their challenges, you can diffuse and de-escalate these situations. I also believe that we teach people how to treat others based on how we treat them. When dealing with a difficult person, I am my most patient and empathetic self in hopes that the person will model similar behavior in the future. It’s not always an easy thing to do, to be patient and kind when some in being difficult and problematic, but as a woman of purpose who is called to be more and vibrate higher, it’s an obligation.
What motivates you to do what you do and be the person you are today? Where would you say your passion comes from?
My passion for helping people, wanting to speak, and spread a positive message are innate to who I am. For as long as I can remember I was helpful at home, at church, and in my community. At the age of 10 years old I attended discipleship and leadership classes. At the time I was 12, my best friend and I signed ourselves up to be volunteers at a local nursing home, and we would go on the weekends and spend time with the residents. By the time I was a teenager I was an orator, competing in citywide speakers’ contest. And just before my 21st birthday, I placed seventh overall in a scholarship pageant. Little did I know this was all a divine work in progress.
Today, that passion still lives and thrives within me.
Even when I was working a full-time job in corporate America I used my influence and leadership at work to empower others, to speak life and inspiration to them and to make their workday as enjoyable as possible.
I stay motivated to be one of the best coaches and speakers in the world, live my best life and lead by example, be the best parent and wife possible, and pursue my passions by staying focused on my divine assignment. I know that I was born to do this work, to impact lives, and to help others overcome obstacles and achieve greatness. Whenever I hit a challenge, I think about all the people that are waiting on me to show up for them and deliver a powerful message or service, and then I realize I can’t quit: I have to keep going because I was called to do this work. When I get frustrated and want to give up, I remind myself that failure is not an option and that giving up is not in my vocabulary. I have children and a husband that need me to persevere and push through my fears and frustrations. When I feel weak and negative self-talk starts rumbling around in my head, I remind myself that I am fearfully and wonderfully made and that there is an extraordinary strength that lives inside of me that won’t let me fail, fall, or be defeated.
Every morning I wake up, I softly speak out loud a quote, a scripture, or one of my own personal mantras that remind me of who I am and what I’m capable of. Then I get up and get busy with the work I’ve been called to do.
And I must say that my husband, my children, and my mom have been extremely supportive from the very beginning of my journey. With love and support like this, I’m able to confidently go in the direction of my dreams. No matter what, I know their unconditional love and unwavering support covers and sustains me.
What is your image of an ideal world? What would the world look like if you realized your vision in life? In your opinion, who would benefit from it and who would suffer?
My vision in life is to positively impact the lives of others, to be a catalyst for positive change and to inspire people to get up, get unstuck, and believe in the brilliance they possess to go after all they want in life.
In an ideal world, we would all respect each other’s differences, love one another more, and celebrate our diversity and individuality. We would listen to each other try to understand other people’s perspectives.
In my ideal world, mankind would love all mankind, and there would be no room for hate.
Until then, I can continue to promote love, peace, and faith. And spread a message that empowers people to see the world differently, look within themselves for the change they wish to see, and to love themselves and others unconditionally.
Being a Mayshad Woman is a choice that women make to live stimulated lives with a positive philosophy based on gratitude, acceptance, accomplishment and human empowerment in order to be who they want to be. Mayshad Women handle different aspects of their lives with confidence and make sure to always stick to their values, in other words, to stay themselves. Mayshad Women are free spirits that design and drive their own lives while inspiring others to do the same.
Based on this description, how would you say that you relate to the Mayshad Woman Philosophy?
The Mayshad Woman Philosophy runs through my veins starting with gratefulness. I tell my children often, at least several times a week, that we are not to focus on the problems we think we have, but to be thankful and grateful for the problems we don’t have. Gratefulness is how I can keep persevering in business and in life when I am met with an unexpected obstacle or challenge. Gratefulness is what I held onto when I could barely pay my bills or didn’t know where my next meal was coming from. And gratefulness, every day, reminds me how blessed I am to be able to raise beautiful children, share a life with my husband, have a business that I love, and create a life that feels so amazing that helps, encourages, and inspires so many.
The Mayshad Woman, like me, is authentic, and confident in her individuality; for she knows that her gifts and talents are rooted in her unique and unparalleled approach to life, leadership, and service. But you know, I wasn’t always this confident, fierce, and fiery
personality. For many years I tried to be what I thought others wanted me to be so that I would be liked and accepted. Some of my lowest moments in life were the result of me trying to fit in where I was meant to stand out. It was out of these experiences that I learned to love me, trust myself, and stay true to my beliefs – even when it meant standing alone, being misunderstood, and unexcepted. The beauty of those experiences is that once I started owning my power and celebrating all the things that made me unique and interesting, life began to reward me.
Embracing who you are is the first step in unlocking the door to your personal power.
And I love that The Mayshad Woman is a symbol of strength in this way.
Last but not least, tell us about your own personal path of empowerment. How do you stay empowered on a day to day basis? How do you empower others around you? In few words, what is the most empowering thing you could share with our audience about how to initiate their lives and stay motivated in their projects?
When I think of being “empowered”, I visualize a light switch, and I remind myself that I am in control of the power, my personal power, being on or off at any given moment. So, for most of my day, every day, I am in a constant state of making sure my power is on; that my light is shining, that I vibrate at a high frequency sending good vibes to everyone that encounters me whether in person or online, and that my actions reflect the goals and vision I have for who I want to be, how I want to feel, and who I want to serve. I stay motivated, and in motion, by reminding myself of my goals and desires, who I serve, and who’s counting on me, and what I deserve. I am intentional about who I spend my time with, who I talk to on the phone in leisure, what I listen to, and the places I go. Self-care, health, and fitness are all parts of my daily routine: Before I can serve anyone, I must ensure that I am happy, healthy and well. Pouring into my mind, body, and spirit gives me the energy, stamina, and motivation I need to be able to pour into others and help others achieve their dreams and desires in life.
If you are ready to ignite that fiery fierce woman that lives within you, you must first be willing to acknowledge her fully and authentically. Don’t be afraid to stand in the truth of who you want to be and what you desire to have. And once you a knowledge her, pursue her. Breathe life into her by taking unapologetic and nonnegotiable actions every day to become her. And every day, look in the mirror and say I am her. And don’t let anyone dim your light or convince you that you’re anything other than extraordinary.