By Mayshad Mag
Mayshad Magazine is an advocacy platform for empowerment which mainly focuses on empowering women, raising awareness and exploring a contemporary lifestyle.
- Who is Nealy Fischer?
I’m a wife, mom of four, yogi, globe-trotter, wellness advocate, and founder of the lifestyle brand The Flexible Chef. Through The Flexible Chef, I inspire people to eat well, move more, and ultimately crave a healthier lifestyle!
- As a mom and entrepreneur, how do you find the balance between the different aspects of your life?
We all juggle various pulls in life—careers, relationships, and daily responsibilities. I run my own online business, I’m deep into writing and recipe testing for my first cookbook, and I make sure dinner is on the table every night for my family.
I believe that we can have it all, just not all at the same time. I find balance in knowing my values, priorities, and goals. Because balance doesn’t mean juggling things perfectly and splitting work/play time evenly, but prioritizing what matters at any given moment. For me, this meant during my childbearing years I waited to achieve larger career aspirations. Now that my kids are a little older, I’m kicking my career into high gear.
My best advice is to get clear and realistic about what you can accomplish, stay focused on your priorities, and create a life of excellence that brings you fulfillment. And don’t be afraid to ask for help along the way!
- What is your meaning of success?
Success is often measured by comparing our achievements to others. I know it was like this for me for a while. Now, success means living my life passionately and waking up every morning with a drive to grow—not for the sake of appearance, but for the sake of contentment. I think I need a few more years of life’s lessons before I can honestly say what success really is, but what I know now is that it isn’t a destination (because there’s always more). Rather, it’s a state of being satisfied with your path and seeing continued growth as an adventure.
- Tell us about your personal path to empowerment.
This may sound extreme, but I went on my first diet when I was just 11 years old. Since then I’ve tried just about every restrictive food fad under the sun. When the industry promoted a low-fat and high-carb diet, I crunched my way through the cracker diet. And once I got bored, I sipped my way to skinny on the lemonade diet. When my willpower became exhausted—which it did quite often—you could find me elbow deep into a vat of ice cream. Bouncing between extremes, I suppose you can say I was chasing the perfect body.
My whole outlook on food and life changed when I started yoga. At first, I was that person in the room who couldn’t even touch her toes. I was eager to nail arm balances and handstands, but that stuff wouldn’t come until I understood and mastered the basics. Through years of practice, I came to understand the core principles of the body and how strength is the key component to flexibility. That sense of grounding led me to reexamine how I operated in the kitchen.
Rather than restrictive fad diets that don’t work in the long run, I knew I needed to figure out what worked best for me and my body. How many desserts could I eat without falling into a constant state of binging? How much gluten-free pasta could I tolerate before I was left feeling bloated, sluggish, and too stuffed? Today, I take a much more flexible approach to food and it’s brought more fulfillment into my life. It’s now my mission to share the power of flexibility with people around the world!
- If you had a chance for a “do-over” in life, what would you do differently?
When I was in my late teens and early twenties I was always in a rush. In a rush to finish college by filling in with summer school. In a rush to tick the boxes of “success”. If I could do something over it would be to slow down a little. I would have pursued things that brought me joy and fostered learning rather than accomplishing. I may have even taken a year off to study or travel!