By Isis Nezbeth
Isis is a first-time mother, author, and free-spirited freelancer.
Not way more than you do, but date someone who believes in your dreams a little more than you do.
I find it extremely hard to accept that there are people out there who have given up on their dreams without ever really trying to reach them in the first place. As an active dream chaser, it makes it difficult for me to see that reality. One, because I do my best to stay in a positive mindset when it comes to dream chasing and two because I feel a little responsible for the people I know who are like this.
How many friends do you have that have started businesses or careers that started off as just a dream? Better yet, how many of those friends have you actually supported?
If you’re someone who supports the people in your life that are trying to go somewhere, good for you! We need more people in the world like you. If you can’t say that you’ve supported any or many, it’s cool, there’s still a chance to redeem yourself. If that person you’re thinking of has stopped chasing that dream or never even began, all is not lost. You can still be that voice of encouragement that gets them to start chasing that dream again.
Anyway, this is a relationship blog, so let’s bring in that aspect, shall we?
Why should you be with someone who believes in your dream more than you do? Again, I have been actively pursuing my dream of writing since 2011. That simple fact has been the cause of so many breakups for me when it comes to relationships–breakups that I initiated and others that I didn’t. You see, it’s like this. I cannot be with someone who doesn’t “get” why I do what I do. If I have to continuously beg for my partner to understand that I’m not ‘wasting my time’ or that I’m ‘being unrealistic’ because I’m chasing my dreams, then he’s not the one for me. Period. And in that same manner, I wouldn’t be with someone who I felt I was holding back from pursuing their own dreams.
Often times, we confuse being a dreamer with someone who is an entrepreneur and that’s not always true. To me, a dreamer is anyone who is working towards their ideal life. That means anyone who is working towards the life they see when they close their eyes and think happy thoughts. It doesn’t have to be an entrepreneurial journey, but it has to be something that makes you undeniably happy. It has to be passionate. It has to be purposeful. That is chasing your dream. So, you see, that widens the dating pool up for those of you who felt like I meant only entrepreneurs. Fret not, my love.
On top of dating someone who believes in your dreams, be that same kind of person for the one you’re with. Encourage them always. Try out their products. Read their material. Help them with their calendar. Share their work. Whatever ways that you can include yourself in their support–do just that. Not only will it make them feel loved and appreciated, it will naturally be reciprocated as well. Two passionate lovers who support each other with all they have… I mean, who doesn’t want that?
Date someone who believes in your dreams a little more than you do. I say a little more than you do because that extra belief they have is what’s going to carry you guys through. When you’re dating someone who believes in your dream a little more than you do, there are a number of things it will mean for your relationship. In my opinion, this kind of person is a lot more understanding of what it takes to get you where you’re trying to go. They will encourage you daily to put in the work that is required of you. They will be passionate about helping you achieve every goal that gets you closer to that dream. They will hold you accountable when you get lazy or slip up. They will love you in your times of disappointment. They will celebrate all the little victories with you and they’ll bask in the big ones with you.
All in all, be with someone who believes in you so much it shows in all that they do for you. Be with someone who is proud of your accomplishments. Be with someone who will hold you when your disappointed and will celebrate you in your successes. Be with someone who encourages you never to give up. Be with someone who dreams. It will definitely make your love life just that much sweeter.