The future of humanity very much depends upon the universal culture of mutual respect and balanced relationships, loving empathy and compassion for one another. But the way the technology and economies of the world are moving, it appears to have all promises of comfort and riches, but is bereft of heart.
In our effort to make life more comfortable with electronic devices we fill mother earth with more electromagnetic vibrations that can only cause more harm than heal. These electronic devices make life devoid of heart and the simpler feelings of loving relationships. We can’t do without the devices, true, but we can’t do without our heart either! Only mindful living can be our shield for protection and also the way to fill the mechanical world with vibrations of love and gratitude, happiness and peace for one and all!
The core of the problem lies with the individual. It is time we realize we are vibrational beings of energy and depending upon our thoughts and beliefs, we carry our own energy and vibrations that affect others. Everyone has to first accept the primary responsibility of sharing positive, joyful, healing energies with others. If everyone understands his or her own responsibility, then our homes and relationships would be very different.
Forbearance, a core value of life, is one thing that the modern generation is slowly losing. As a result, we are seeing relationships breaking down at every level: marriage as an institution is in danger and family as the foundation of a healthy society is falling apart! What is the use of money and technology if we can’t love and trust each other?
The true test of spirituality is how we manage our home, our relationships, our parenting, our marital life, and life as whole. A calm and loving heart is needed to win the home front. It is easy to be a winner on the outside, but to win in the home is the biggest challenge; not many can pass through that eye of the needle!!
It is our un-mindful state that attracts the downturns in our lives. Then we make the grave mistake of finding someone else responsible for the miseries in our life.
A frustrated mind is instinctively reactive, leading us to more depressive situations.
We need to remember what we give to the Universe (to others) comes back to us. The Universe is continually reciprocating our reactions and responses. The more alert and wakeful we are about our thoughts and what we say, the better for us. Like an arrow leaving the bow can’t be taken back, so also words spoken can’t be taken back. Most relationships suffer due to impatient communication that comes from lack of mindful listening. Empathy flows from our soul, judgments from the mind, love and compassion from our heart. We must be careful not to give what we would not be happy to receive back. Instead, we need to give that which, when it returns to us, will make us happy and peaceful in life.
The foundation is a calm mind. Our reactions are the fruits of our ego and our responses are the manifestations of our Soul. But we can’t be responsive until we have practiced meditation and relaxation to calm our self. It is only a calm mind that can respond to situations spontaneously.
Those of us who are calmer than before know what a great difference a calm mind creates in our relationships, how empathetic and kind we become with greater understanding of the limitations of the other person. We don’t get angry or aggressive when hurt, but realize that a long deep mindful breath can lift us up in no time. Relationships thrive on our compassionate attitude and not being judgmental. Our potential for peace and happiness is infinite for we are inseparable from the divine, the Whole.
Let us always take every opportunity in our mundane relationships to express our gratitude and thankfulness and acknowledging the good in others rather than picking on the faults. The most effective prayer is our deepest sense of gratitude to each other and the whole Universe!
The true art of mindful relationships is learning to live life without regrets and to die without regrets. We can avoid regrets if we retreat within our self first and set our inner clock right, then our movements will be right, and our life and relationships will begin to blossom. So look within! Once the home of our mind is calm and in order, the world order changes, and so do our relationships!