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This euphoria can last for a brief moment, or can extend indefinitely or maybe even infinitely, if you are lucky enough to be in full consciousness and in service to higher growth. But this sense of endorphin-inspired bliss can also carry us on a wild river current, blinding us to warning signals that to others would be so obvious.
This is the shiny thing. This is the thing that can obliterate all the hard work we’ve done on ourselves. We follow the instinct wholeheartedly, follow this bliss to satisfy our deep curiosity and need…to walk into a swirling mirage of color and whirl-winding passage that knows only sensation. And we stay, sometimes longer than we should, even as we see the holes that may not be possible to mend.
We stay because we believe in the mending. We believe we can sew up the raw places, heal the wounds of the other and ourselves, patch up the places that aren’t comfortable. And maybe we can. But it requires a different kind of medicine.
I have learned that this medicine is the one that can only be applied to oneself. It is the IV drip of love that only works on one’s own heart. The homeopathic drop of self-respect, of watching what feels right versus what is truly out of our comfort zone. It is the magic pill of discernment, of noticing and following one’s own truth every step of the way, no matter how contrary it may seem to the other.
This constant self-administration of mindfulness to oneself interestingly enough then becomes the very tonic that affects the other. It is a prescription that gives your loved one permission to do the same, in service to the self, and ultimately to that third thing you hope to create in the making of true and grounded love.
The shiny thing in the moment, digested without thought, foresight, or self-love, can lethally bruise the soul. But because we know that the lover is a mirror to who we are, our shadow or light side or even both, we can instead use the opportunities that love brings to heal ourselves and make this third thing that is the combination of two awake individuals evolving a relationship instead of ultimately breaking each other’s hearts.
Credits to Picture : David Cohen