Global Citizen | Travel | Dream | Explore | Believe | & Always Smile | #PositiveEnergy | Full time Global Citizen, part time Executive Assistant, Amira Kabbara is a mentee of the Universe and spreader of positivity and love! Ok so.... maybe she really does work a “9-5” as an Executive Assistant in Boston, which most would consider full time… but she knows that the whole world is her back yard, and life doesn't stop at 5pm!
Most people think I am crazy when I tell them my fiancé and I have never been on a real date. You know… the kind where you get dolled up and your boyfriend/girlfriend comes to your front door to pick you up and take you out on the town – and you have that weird end of the night awkwardness where you aren’t sure if you should invite them up… Yes, this is true. And yes, I did say that was with my fiancé.
Up until last year, we never even lived in the same city. Ever. For 1.5 years he lived in NYC and I lived in New Hampshire/Boston. Every time we would see each other it was a weekend affair, which was wonderful! BUTTTT, it did create a very different type of relationship, and in my mind an even better situation for us. Funny enough most people think long distance relationships are a lot of work, but in reality they can actually be easier! Sometimes it is nice to come home and not have to cook dinner every night 🙂
We found there were a few simple tricks that helped our relationship not only sustain long distance, but actually flourish!
- When you do get to spend time with each other, make sure it is quality.
Weekends are always filled with so many things, plans, people…. Make sure that you take time for just the two of you! Honestly this can be really hard to do, but sometimes you just have to say “no” to your friends and family! Or better yet, take the alone time during the week to carve out friends and family time so you don’t have to say no!
- Communication! Communication! Communication!
And I mean like a lot!! This is probably the strongest area of my relationship now because it is all we had to survive on for 1.5 years. We talk all day, every day, STILL! Now, I am not saying this is for everyone, because it isn’t! But make sure your partner is a part of your every day life, even though they aren’t there.
- Make every effort to see them.
This sounds like a given, I know… but I am talking even on unplanned weekends! I remember on one Saturday night my plans fell through, so I texted my fiancé (then boyfriend) and told him my bag was packed and I was hopping in the car! Let me tell you, that adrenaline made for the fastest 4 hour car ride ever! Spontaneity is still possible when you are long distance! Maybe even a flight goes on super sale and you snag it – keep your eye out! The Universe will help you out!
From the get-go. Trust. Trust in your love, trust in each other, trust in the Universe. If someone is going to cheat on you, they are going to do it whether you are 10 miles away or 10,000 miles away. Get that out of your mind! If your partner is making all the effort to be in a long distance relationship, chances are they aren’t interested in anyone else. To be honest, you aren’t exactly “convenient” for them, yet they are still with you. That is worth a lot
- Keep it spicy.
Ok sheesh… need I say more? We are all adults, use your imagination!