Award-winning author, international speaker, and former radio show personality.
No matter where you live, what you do, what you read or what you view, there will always be something negative around every corner. And although we can agree that these are rather trying times throughout the world and within the United States, what you may not consider is that for as much bad as there is in the world, there can be equal or proportionately better.
Sadly, people are bent on regaling us with negativity and perpetuating the doom and gloom theories. We are addicted to drama. So, if we aren’t being scared by the possibility of a North Korean attack, we are terrified that we will catch the flu, or that we are simply not good enough. There always seems to be something that spins us into a state of fear. But as a great guru from India once said, “Fear is the worst use of the imagination.”
The fact is that we are actually doing pretty well. In point of fact, if you live in an industrialized nation, you are doing vastly better than many of the worlds inhabitant. In fact, crime has fallen sharply over the past quarter of a century. We even have a decrease in war and the number of people dying from wars. So, if poverty, war, and crime are decreasing, what is increasing? Simple answer: Social media and internet use! Social media is creating serious addictions to our phones, destroying relationships, and worst of all, it is brainwashing us!
Think about a very basic rule. It is called, the rule of 5. This rule states that you become the company you keep based on your 5 closest friends. Because you spend so much time on Social media, news, etc., it becomes (in essence) one of your “friends.” Since this “friend” is typically and consistently espousing negativity, your thoughts align with this information and then you become the company you keep i.e. negative, depressed, gossip-mongering, naysaying, self-deprecating, etc. And sure, from time to time, your friend throws in a picture of a cute puppy or a random act of kindness. But more often than not, this “friend” is brainwashing you to believe that the world is evil, people are evil, corporations are evil, and there isn’t anything you can do because it is all so overwhelming and hopeless.
Yet the truth is, this is a GREAT time to be alive! We are more informed, have a better quality of life, have access to education, clean water, an abundance of food, and more. That said, sadly, not everyone has the same opportunities or simple luxuries that you do. BUT (and this is a big one), we have more awareness, more advocates, and more organization than ever before championing for change and making a difference globally. So yes, there are some crappy parts to life. This is a given. But don’t be brainwashed into believing this is the norm and not the exception.
Your free will is not just about what you decide to do or what choices you make. It is also about what YOU choose to THINK and what you choose to believe. So, when you are listening to your false friend (social media) spew more garbage and negativity, turn it off and make a new friend with SOMEONE that brings you joy, peace, inspiration, and reminds you to have gratitude. The truth is LIFE is BEAUTIFUL and no one has the right to take your smile.