By Isis Nezbeth
Isis is a first-time mother, author, and free-spirited freelancer.
“Ambitious girl, your drive drives me crazy.”
She is a complicated woman. She is a masterpiece. She is crazy as hell. Yes, all of these things are true–but she’s worth it. There are a number of reasons why the ambitious woman is always single, but I did the best I could to pinpoint as many reasons as I could for those of you who might not know. We’ve already talked about what it’s like to date a woman on her shit, but she is different from the ambitious woman. So here’s why the ambitious woman is always single but is so worth dating. Let’s get into it!
The ambitious woman doesn’t get played.
Mama ain’t raise no fool, baby. The ambitious woman has so much on her plate already. The last thing she is prepared to do is to invest her time into a relationship that leaves her getting played and looking stupid. She can smell your bullshit from a mile away and the minute she realizes you’re the player she more than likely already thought you were–she splits. If your intentions are good though, she’ll know.
The ambitious woman takes herself seriously.
She’s a big deal. The ambitious woman takes herself and her accomplishments very seriously. Anyone that she dates or enters a relationship with is now a reflection of her. That puts her image and all that she has worked for at risk. No, she doesn’t intentionally feel like you’ll fuck everything up, but in the back of her mind, she is always contemplating whether or not dating you is worth that risk. Ultimately, unless she’s hearing a word from God, she passes.
The ambitious woman is independent.
“I-n-d-e-p-e-n-d-e-n-t, do you know what that means?” The ambitious woman is independent. She is used to having to take care of herself (and her baby if she has any). Just like I previously mentioned she doesn’t always realize that she is not reachable emotionally, she is just focused. She is focused on achieving every little thing she has set on her heart to accomplish and she won’t stop until she does. The thought of risking those accomplishments for something that’s likely to fail… she just can’t seem to fathom it. If you can grow with her, become a part of her plan, and encourage her to fulfill that plan she won’t see a risk of letting you in.
The ambitious woman knows what she wants.
Regardless of how she might sound so far, the ambitious woman believes in love. She wants to find love, but she knows exactly what she wants. She is willing to work for what she wants and she doesn’t have any plans for settling for less. If you don’t have what it takes, she’s not going to make you think you do. It’s nothing against you, you’re just not what she’s looking for. When you are what she’s looking for, she is ready to give you her all.
The ambitious woman loves intensely.
A sea of passion, she is. The ambitious woman loves so intensely that it even scares her from time to time. She is usually the one that falls too deep, too soon and she’s fell flat on her face way more times than she wanted to in the past. So now, she protects herself. She doesn’t let people in easy. Getting through to her will take effort and patience. It won’t go unnoticed though. She can be won over with the right plan and purpose.
Am I right, ladies?